I can’t stop thinking about you!
Didn’t you always say this when you were so young and in love?
Days are spent daydreaming about the object of your affection. Nights are spent wishing you can pull the hours so you can be with each other again.
When you get married, the first years have you feeling so “in love.”
You are loving, kind, patient and thoughtful to your spouse because you are “in love.”
As the years pass, you become more secure with each other.
Security can be a good thing because it assures you of that loving feeling you know you will have every day.
But the bad thing is it can cause you to become complacent.
You tend to become “thoughtless.”
You forget to be loving.
You shuffle through the days unconsciously, letting opportunities to express love pass you by.
Soon enough, thoughtless becomes careless.
You become insensitive and selfish.
You are thoughtful — of yourself.
By this time, the thrill has been replaced by familiarity and not long after, you find yourself falling “out of love.”
That’s the thing about being “in love,” it’s a fantasy feeling that fades away. And when it does, there has to be something more real and more lasting to take its place.
That is REAL LOVE.
And it’s something I’ve been trying to learn and practice everyday.
When you really love, you never stop thinking about your spouse.
You constantly think about the one you love.
You always reflect about what he needs.
You always consider how he feels.
In everything you say and do, you think about how you can show that you love him more.
During difficult times, being thoughtful means keeping silent and still, when you know that anger can cause you to say or do something that can hurt the one you love.
You strive to regain that loving feeling before your speak or act again because:
The thoughtful nature of love teaches you to engage your mind before engaging your lips. Love thinks before speaking. It filters words through a grid of truth and kindness.
I’ve been learning how to demonstrate love more than to say it.
Because by doing it, I understand completely what it means.
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Love is always a choice.
And I choose to love you…
Every moment of every day for the rest of my life.
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I’m Jayme and this is my online journal. I love writing, books, chocolate and moleskine journals. I love learning about creative visualization and deliberate creation. Thank you for stopping by. If you feel inspired, feel free to leave a comment or
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You seemed to be a loving prophet with endearing words of “what should be” in the reality of LOVE. I would attest for your vibrant witnessing and also do appreciate for sharing it unconditionally. Thanks for bits of inspiration and i am hoping for more meanigful insights from you.
Thanks and God bless!