Selfishness is the root of all heartache.
I should know.
I used to be selfish.
Sometimes, I still am.
How about you?
Me, myself and I
I used to think that after I’ve given everything I got then it was just right that I take my turn to get.
I thought…
I want to do things that make ME happy.
I want to do things for MYSELF.
I want to do whatever I want.
It was all ME, MYSELF and I.
In the end, I realized selfishness can never be justified because true love is never selfish.
YES
True love always gives.
True love never computes how much has been given or received in return.
When you truly love, generosity comes naturally and freely.
One of the most important shifts I’ve made in my understanding of love and relationships was sparked by these quotes from Love Dare:
True love looks for ways to say YES.
You say NO to what you WANT, so you can say YES to what (your spouse) NEEDS.
Recently, my selfishness was tested once again.
I wanted to stand my ground thinking that I didn’t owe anything to anybody.
My ego was screaming “NO!!!”
But by God’s grace, I learned to humble myself.
And like a gentle reminder from Him, I found myself repeating that quote over and over:
True love looks for ways to say yes.
I honored a very tough request that I knew was important to the one I loved.
I got rejected in return but I let the hurt go.
I know God touches hearts way more powerfully than anyone ever could.
He likes working in miracles like that.
Just as He works miracles to heal my selfish heart and to make it more loving.
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This is supposed to be a 40-day journey to love but the lessons are more challenging than I thought.
It takes me more than a day to fully “understand” the lessons I am learning and a couple more days to really practice it.
But I find that it has added a much deeper meaning to my life.
If you ever feel like you’re lost and you need a sense of direction, take on this worthy challenge:
Learn to live love.
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I’m Jayme and this blog is about creating the life you want through journaling, creative visualization and the Law of Attraction. Thank you for stopping by. If you feel inspired, feel free to leave a comment or 
