Love is not irritable

November 1, 2009 | Category: Love

Yosemite Reflections #1

How does this photo make you feel?

I love looking at images of calm waters and beautiful landscapes. No matter where I am, I feel like I’m instantly transported to heaven.

When I feel the impending onslaught of impatience, I close my eyes and retreat to these beautiful scenes in my mind. It helps me to be peaceful and to focus on the most positive way to deal with trying situations and even small irritations.

While there are moments when marriage feels like a fantastic fairytale, there are also times when it can feel like an exasperating experience.

When things are less than perfect, when situations don’t turn out your way, when your partner behaves in a disagreeable manner, it’s easy to fall into the impulsive trap of overreacting.

How many times have you snapped at your hubby because of some itty bitty irritation?

I know I have a couple of times. And when I think about it, it would have done me a lot of good if I had only stopped for a moment before I reacted.

Irritation happens when we give in to the negative emotions of the moment. We let our impulsive emotions rule us .

We also get easily irritated when have negative thoughts. When we lose something, one of the immediate thoughts that come to mind would be “someone must have taken it.”

But when we act from a place of love, we can react differently.

Love chooses to pause, to be calm and to think of how to respond in the most loving way even during the most irritating or anger – inducing situations.

It takes conscious effort to remember that you are dealing with a lovable person who occasionally does unlovable things.

When you are confronted by challenging situations, the old adage is always a good guide to follow:

Think before you act

More than that, always ask yourself this very important question:

How do I respond in the most loving way?

This can be quite tough at first but constant practice can enable you to react calmly naturally.

“Love is hard to offend and quick to forgive… When under pressure, love doesn’t turn sour. Minor problems don’t yield major reactions.”

I have been going through this love journey on and off for the past months. And though it can be really challenging some times, I believe every hurdle I overcome makes me a better person every time.

I am continuing this journey one day at a time and it’s a very enriching experience.

Learning to love, really love is one of the most worthwhile things there is about life.

Photo by: Patrick Smith

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